Christelle Kerouedan - Coaching & Communications

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Think you are not enough?!

Updated from a blog written in March 2022.

“You don’t have to be anything more than you already are in order to be enough.” 

I could write this on my forehead and on post-its around the house!!

I wish that growing up, and then later becoming a mum and working in the corporate world, I was confident and self-assured, but the reality is that I have often battled feelings of inadequacy.

Working with a therapist and a coach, I have developed my own version of self-confidence and learnt to be like a turtle, at ease in my own shell, but starting my Coaching and Communications practice has certainly brought back some old thinking habits and limiting beliefs.

What if I am not ready yet?

What if I am not experienced or qualified enough?

What if I can’t earn enough to provide for my family?

What if I am not taken seriously?

It can manifest itself in various ways:

  • I am overworked – working long hours to make sure everything is perfect as I do not believe in my own abilities

  • I am easily rattled by the slightest criticism

  • I procrastinate or avoid doing certain things – if I don’t launch that new program, it won’t fail.

  • I am constantly wanting to improve or to sign up for the next course or qualification

It’s coming from a place of fear and feeling that I am not good enough and it is not only exhausting, but also counter-productive.

Here are a few things I do to build myself up when self-doubt and imposter syndrome start raising their heads:

  • Prioritise my selfcare – when I am tired and not in a good place emotionally and mentally, I am much more vulnerable and more easily shaken by self-doubt

  • Read my achievements list – this is a list I have built up over time, encompassing all aspects of my life, professional, and personal. Write yours. Every little success counts.

  • Read my clients feedback – over time I have collected testimonials and client feedback. I use these as a reminder that I am good at my job. Build your feedback folder and refer to it as needed.

  • Review my strengths and skills list – being good at anything, however small is a good reason to be confident. From cooking a mean chocolate cake to being a good listener or having fabulous taste or style, what are your strengths?

  • Focus on my abilities – do more of what you do well, to demonstrate your competences to yourself.

  • Stop comparing myself to others – there is always someone who is more advanced or more qualified at something. Focus on yourself and your own abilities.

  • Accept compliments – learn to feel comfortable with praises and simply say “Thank you”. No “but” or excuses to minimise your contribution.

  • Look after myself and my space – reinforce the message to yourself that you are worthy and surround yourself with objects, photos or souvenirs providing evidence of your own success and value.

  • Speak to my coach

If you want more support in this area, book an exploratory call here and we can take it from there.